Are you TOO comfortable with your own company?
Do you prefer spending time by yourself just a bit too much?
Quote:
“Single is not a status. It’s a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others.”
In this issue:
Are you becoming too comfortable and used to your own company?
Do you avoid social situations and spend virtually all your time by yourself?
Have you done something new and different recently – a new experience?
Is it time that you take an honest look at yourself?
Being comfortable in your own company is important for everyone – and particularly for single people.
If you don't like yourself and want to spend time by yourself, why would other people want to spend time with you? The thought of spending a weekend doing your own thing, or a Saturday evening preparing a nice meal for yourself and reading doesn’t scare you. But is there a danger of becoming too comfortable being by yourself?
Your personality will determine what is right for you – some people are simply more comfortable in their own company than others. But when you reach the point where you purposefully avoid company, shun other people, and spend virtually all your time by yourself, it may be time to take a hard look at your situation.
It’s good to spend time alone without feeling lonely or depressed. However, when it becomes the norm and you don’t try new experiences, meeting new people, and doing something that stretches you there’s a danger that you’ll get in a rut. Does the mere thought of doing something new scare you? And the longer it continues, the more difficult it becomes to get out into the world.
‘Getting out into the world’ is overrated and not always the wonderful experience it’s made out to be. But you need to keep growing as a person and stretch yourself a bit. Do you want to remain a spectator for the rest of your life? That thought really, really scares me!
What is right for you? For your situation, personality, abilities?
Take an honest look at your situation.
Have you grown, progressed as a person the past year, five years?
When last did you visit a new place, join a new club/society?
Do you accept invitations from other people, or have they stopped asking?
What have you always wanted to do, but only had excuses and no courage to do it?
What prevents you from getting out more, even if you love your place and company?
Me? I have a small circle of family and friends and enjoy spending time with them now and then. I also meet new people and deal with new situations through my part-time pet sitting. But it’s always good to get back to my own place and close the door.
But writing this, I realize I need to look at myself and ask some questions.
I’d love to hear your view on this – and where you see yourself presently.